Love me Like a Bomb

If you do not know what this is from, I am not sure we can be friends.

I was a part of the hair band generation although the younger part. My sister was more obsessed with this particular band than I was.

I remember buying magazines that were more directed at hair band fans than the teen beat type periodicals. You could find people that wanted to be pen pals at the back of the magazine. We would write with pen and paper and send snail mail. This is what we did before using classifieds or finding chat rooms on AOL.

A much different experience than the social media sites of today. I was having a conversation recently about how interesting it is to connect to people from different parts of the world. When we were younger, it was more likely that you would find someone in your town, settle down, have kids and live the rest of your life in that one place. That seems so foreign to me now although I did start out with that traditional way. We were told we would go to college and find someone and that is kind of what I did.

Now I am getting to talk with people online. I am learning about different perspectives and seeing how others live beyond my normal walls. It has been very eye-opening and fun, but also challenging in some ways. Distance is one thing that is annoying me constantly. I am really good at attracting people that live thousands of dollars of plane rides away, but there are other challenges.

We get to put our best foot forward. I like to think I am a person that shares as much of the real me as possible, but others are looking at it from their eyes and experiences. I also am looking at others sometimes with rose colored glasses but most of the time with a little or a lot of skepticism, too.

One of the more interesting challenges for me is love bombing. I have mentioned this before. There can be an intensity that starts at the front and feels really good, especially for people with attention-seeking behaviors.

Unfortunately, these have a tendency to burn out quickly as I have said before. I love it when these can transition instead to something more. I find it encouraging to see couples make it. We are seeing the majority of lasting connections start online and there is not one thing that I can see that makes them last.

What I hope is that when you can build a friendship as you go and not lose the connection even if it remains online, then you have something great. When you do not put the expectation of another human to fulfill a certain role, it can be so much more fulfilling to let it happen how it is meant to happen.

I don’t just have to be a sexual partner for someone. I have a few people already willing to have sex with me if you can believe that. I don’t just have to have someone to be my Daddy or my Dom either although that is my favorite way to connect. I just want to be open to connecting to people that I feel add something to my own happiness. Someone worth staying up late for. Someone that makes me want to share myself.

Just another ramble. Hope you made it through.