I have been slowing down on sharing myself lately. For many reasons. First, I am worried about filling the void with meaningless interactions and thinking that I somehow need the attention to be loved. This is not unlike my teenage years when I thought making someone cum was my way to get love and positive… Continue reading Slowing Down
Category: Poly and Kinky
Presence
A smart man said something about living in the now, being present. (It was Garth. He has a lot of great quotes.) Many people say it, actually. I think I am doing ok with it. Enjoying where the road takes me. Enjoying the calm that has suddenly cast itself upon me. It is a weird… Continue reading Presence
Where do you want to be?
This is such a popular question when giving interviews or going on retreats for work. Do you practice thinking about this? What are the things you always say, and what are the things you don't? I haven't really worked on my endgame. I know I have places I want to see. Places that don't match… Continue reading Where do you want to be?
Scared
I just read a meme that basically boils down to your not scared of love, you are scared of love leaving you. I am afraid of that. I have that feeling of wanting my heart to be safe in his hands. I want that to be true so bad but all I have are his… Continue reading Scared
Casual
I just read a title that says there is a cost to casual sex. I didn't read it before coming here to think on it. Maybe I will. I have been in a position recently where my body is not craving sex as much. I am getting older, and hormones are doing strange things. I… Continue reading Casual
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