I was reading an article on Substack by Dr. Emma Blake and she had analyzed a survey and then created her own asking 200 women what they want in bed.
Most of the things were not surprising and it was nice to think I am not alone in my wants.
Dominance, intimacy, the taboo, feeling wanted and desired are all on my list.
One response noted that they wanted not aggression, but confidence.
I think I want both. Confidence and giving that feeling of being wanted and seen is so important but get aggressive too. That may be the only way I can get it through my thick skull that I am actually desired, I am actually worth loving.
What else do I want? Something simple really. His face. I want it in my inbox all the time and I want it in front of me. His hands around my cheeks, his eyes gazing into mine, and his voice using those words I long to hear.
Lisa Gray 