So time to admit a few things. I am an overthinker. Probably not surprised. Another thing to admit, my Daddy is also a writer and I met him through fangirling over his work. I can say now that I am not the fangirl I once was as I get to know more of the real… Continue reading Navigating Self-Image and True Connection: A Journal Entry
Category: Poly and Kinky
It’s Not a Competition
“It's not your job to fight off people competing for your partner's affection. It's your partner's job to consistently show you, and the world, that there is no competition.” I always like to remind myself that my relationship with my partner is just between us. If I have a problem with my relationship it is up to… Continue reading It’s Not a Competition
Poly Problem that becomes a benefit:
When you're scared when your partner gains a new partner and lands in NRE with them, you worry you will lose something. Then you realize the sexy energy they are getting fed gets passed on to you too and then compersion hits, your mind settles, and you get to feed off of their energy.
Polar Opposites
They say opposites attract, but partners can be attracted to opposites. One observation I have being poly is the trend of my partners to pick other partners that are the polar opposite of me. I have light hair, freckles, and am pretty pail. Many of my metas have been very tan with dark hair and… Continue reading Polar Opposites
Protest Behavior
Protest Behavior What the heck is that? To be honest, I am not 100% sure. I did not read the whole book. But if you are interested in attachment theory, check out Attached by Levine (Polysecure is another popular title to find.) There are also tons of online quizzes, and your attachment style is based… Continue reading Protest Behavior
Lisa Gray 