This time of year I am reminded how much Kink and writing fulfill that need for escape. I know I am privileged with family and a little bit of money to spend on kids when so many do not have that, but it doesn’t always mean that this time of year is always joyful.
I appreciate the rest and the escape that I get from kinky connections. Today, though, I am sitting in my bed alone resting up for the festivities to come and thinking about sub drop.
Sometimes you can have intense playtimes that lead you to that drop. It really doesn’t matter how long that play time last. But today I also feel a bit of drop or longing for someone special. I know that we will both be busy today with family obligations. We have been talking very regularly, though and I already miss him. He is not someone I have met in person, yet, but there is still this longing of wanting them near. Wanting them to comment on my posts, wanting to show the connection we have very openly. Lots of wanting for lots of things.
I am going to try my best to push through these feelings and not project them onto him, though.
This is one of those things that can be hard. When you go through that drop feeling, it can mean that you did not get all your needs met and maybe that is because you did not ask. It could mean the intensity led to triggering some insecurities. That is what is happening to me right now so I am doing my part to tell my brain to stop it. I will not share that energy and ruin a moment. Sometimes though you just need a little reassurance and should not be afraid to ask for it. Maybe we should understand, too, that we are not entitled to that reassurance, but I feel a good partner will know how to react to you asking for it even if it’s not in their power to indulge you.
Lisa Gray 