I see a trend especially in the poly and kink communities of relationships lasting through that new and getting to know you phase and then slowing dying. Many don’t make it to that year mark. That somehow get past the 4 to 6 month mark but can’t make it further. Sometimes there is a good… Continue reading Anchoring
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Repeating Patterns
I read something the other day about how we repeat what we know. It is so very common for those with trauma to look at patterns and repeat the mistakes of the past. When you fall in love with someone, you worry you are alone in that, especially if you have had very little love… Continue reading Repeating Patterns
It’s Father’s Day
Sitting on a patio, sipping a whiskey drink, eating shrimp, and listening to a one man band tell me not to worry about a thing. I guess I won’t. For some of us, Father’s Day is hard, but I have had all kinds of good daddy’s over the years to fill that void and erase… Continue reading It’s Father’s Day
My Plus One
I had an interesting conversation at work yesterday about being in charge of our own happiness and emotions and needs. I agree that feelings are ours to deal with but that doesn’t mean others can’t have compassion and empathy. There is a war in my brain about needs. On one hand we are in charge… Continue reading My Plus One
Wanting to Be
I had something in my head just now, and I completely lost it. I really hate that. It has been a crazy morning at work, thinking people would leave me alone today, but everyone is coming out of the woodwork for some reason. They don't understand that all I want to do is write. I… Continue reading Wanting to Be
Lisa Gray 