7 words Words that I believed. That is how I felt about abuse, too, growing up. If it isn't violent, then it is not really abuse. I was very wrong about that. It's about knowing there are enough feelings, enough passion, to want to love me violently. It's about turning off my brain and putting… Continue reading If Love’s Not Violent, It’s Not Real
Tag: Masochism
The Struggle
I was reminded yesterday about my feelings on the struggle. There are all types of struggles, and I wrote about how we sometimes devalue the act of struggling. What if I rephrase and reframe that, though? Maybe if I use the word suffer, my brain can get the hit that I need. Maybe I can… Continue reading The Struggle
Pleasure in Sadness
Sitting in an emotion masochism class this morning. There is so much here that is relatable. I love the community I find online that offers space for growth and learning. But it is nice too to get to listen to people who help validate your experiences or help you put a name to things. I… Continue reading Pleasure in Sadness
Mistakes
How do you deal with them? For the last few days, I have been thinking about a mistake I made. I took ownership of it, but it has created guilt in my mind that has lingered a bit. This is mostly because I'm afraid it changed the trajectory of a relationship. We were moving in… Continue reading Mistakes
Lisa Gray 