Someone asked me an anonymous question the other day about what I thought kink was. I don’t know that I really answered in the right way. I recognize my bias in a lot of the answer. But starting out, I did talk about how that shifts as society shifts. The point of the word was… Continue reading What is Kink?
Tag: Dynamics
I’m a Brat with a lowercase b
I love the playful energy that my dynamic has. I love that my Daddy hits me with things on purpose to bring out the brat in me. I am not always bratty, but there is always a sarcastic, playfully mean person underneath the surface. It takes certain behaviors to flip that switch. I can't define… Continue reading I’m a Brat with a lowercase b
Anchoring
I see a trend especially in the poly and kink communities of relationships lasting through that new and getting to know you phase and then slowing dying. Many don’t make it to that year mark. That somehow get past the 4 to 6 month mark but can’t make it further. Sometimes there is a good… Continue reading Anchoring
My Plus One
I had an interesting conversation at work yesterday about being in charge of our own happiness and emotions and needs. I agree that feelings are ours to deal with but that doesn’t mean others can’t have compassion and empathy. There is a war in my brain about needs. On one hand we are in charge… Continue reading My Plus One
Take Me With You
I have mentioned a lot how hard long-distance and online dynamics can be. I have talked about how physical touch is a huge love language for me. But sometimes it is more than that. Sometimes you isolate yourself in a way because your hyper focusing on the dynamic and you lose some parts of you… Continue reading Take Me With You
Lisa Gray 