Today is one of those days that not everyone is happy and celebrating. I am a mother, but I do not spend every day appreciating that role. I feel some guilt, knowing I have taken on some of my mother's avoidant attachment styles. There is some generational trauma that I wish I could have broken.… Continue reading Mothering
Category: Roles and Identities in Kink
How do you define yourself
Watching Married at First Sight Season 10 Australia. It is really making me think about this question. There is one woman who, at the start, I thought I would identify with. She was older than the rest and concerned about her sex life. The way they edited their story really pushed the divorced, older, sexless… Continue reading How do you define yourself
Primal Longing
Thinking about that desperation and that primal urge to be ruined, destroyed, ripped open, and then put back together. It’s not enough anymore to do random hookups. I need that chemistry and attraction and that feeling of being wanted that comes from being prey to your predator. Chase me, tie me up, chain me to… Continue reading Primal Longing
Am I a Brat
Likely, OK definitely. I have this tendency to come in strong with wanting to serve someone. In the past, I have been bad at sustaining that. I get burned out in that role; for me, it has been a role and an extension of past trauma. My last dom tried to get me to explain… Continue reading Am I a Brat
Degrade me with Love
Degradation and objectification are big kinks for me. I won't call them a fetish because I don't have to have it, but I am used to being shown more negative ways of affection than I am in positive ways. There is something about being used but it takes trust and security. Degradation adds that special… Continue reading Degrade me with Love
Lisa Gray 