I had a few tasks today. When you are living within an online dynamic and developing a very long distance relationship, that is really the most you have to work with in feeling owned and feeling your partners presence.
It can be fun to see what they come up with.
But it is more than that. This is how you ritualize the dynamic. This is how you feel them in your life.
When you have a good partner and a good connection, your submission can blossom within the confines of the dynamic. You can grow into the relationship through the small rituals you begin to develop.
The beginning of the good morning texts evolve into the picture to go along with it and then the thought of waking up to them turns into a regular run of sending videos every morning where you show how much that thought affects you every day.
It becomes a need for you both.
Tasks are also given that show you how much he thinks of you and wants you to think of him all day.
They are meant to keep the connection and keep you addicted to their presence in your life, an addiction I don’t want to be free of.
Lisa Gray 
Very interesting. In terms of the relationship what created the initial attraction? My own experiences of BDSM sites did not inspire me. Usually they are fairly chilly sites with no trace of community.
Considering the effort it takes for newbies to settle in or join it’s not encouraging. Only Collarspace seemed friendly.
Indeed some sites are restricted by their sponsors which is fair enough.
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Effort and I special type of confidence. It is usually in the energy that I sense from them. An innate quality that shows me they are not acting. There is some sort of line between confidence and arrogance.
I did not stay on Collarspace for long and was only drawn to get by my local community at first just to get a better education on what kink and poly could look like. This was 10 years ago and the world and these sites have evolved. I don’t go to these spaces to find anyone but people seem to find me.
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Online is a challenge. As is real time. These days with a prevailing asexual trend on the rise it is tough. To go public as a kinkster takes courage more than in times past. The sexual revolution goes full circle.
Collarspace seemed open. My own preference would favour small intimate groups. As a librarian “Small Is Beautiful” you will know as a onetime best seller. A group of about eight or ten would be ideal. No restrictions on social status or ruling out singles. Less demanding than a local munch on a main street in a popular bar.
Probably a dream but just floating the idea. Exclusive D/s people might have to be left out. I would not see the point of them in an open group. They only bring inflexibility.
illona m
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Yes. In the local community I drift in and out of, the smaller groups have been most successful. It really depends on personalities involved but the trend is that the right personalities for that set up gravitate toward it.
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