And there is nothing spookier than talking with someone for a long time and having them disappear. It happens a lot.
A friend brought it up the other day because it seems to happen more often on these online social media sites. I think there is an issue with the discrepancies of why people are there to begin with. In the past, I have said it is just an escape for me, but I have met people there that I could really see myself falling in love with and building a life with them.
You just never know what their intent is, though. I think we come from a place of throwaway culture. People are seen as disposable, and it is much easier to justify treating people that way if you think their intentions are the same as yours, and when they are behind a screen, they feel less real.
I worry that some of my behaviour could be seen as ghosting, but when I back off, it is because I am matching effort. I sense someone losing interest so I have the idea that I don’t want to bother them.
But as I was thinking about this today, I thought of something funny. As I have had partners who made me journal or send messages every day, I have come to realize that maybe I have just fallen in love with myself. I have kept the thread of messages to my partners and bookmarked their last message, and it is almost comical the way I have continued the conversation with myself, thinking they would come back eventually.
Lisa Gray 