Feeling your Feelings

You do not need a reason or explanation to feel your feelings. You can just be. (Paraphrased from a Julia Kent novel. She is one of my favorites.)

I love Julia Kent. She was the one who introduced me to the word Poly in her Random Acts series. It has been a wild and crazy ride since that first time reading the book.

Thinking about this phrase from another book, though, and realizing I, like some of you, have this habit of making excuses for myself when it comes to having feelings. Like, I am just crying right now because of hormones, it will pass. I am angry right now because of this. I am super frustrated due to this other thing beyond my control.

I feel like it is better to explain away my feelings rather than explode and think the world is just out to get me, as some of my family do. But honestly, it doesn’t matter where the feelings are coming from. I can just feel them. I don’t have to explain them or blame something or someone else for them.

I am very much in a state of just being now, and it is all kinds of weird but I am going to try to take advantage of that.