I have been thinking about this word recently. It has several different meanings depending on what context you are in. You can be talking about responsive love or sex where you can be responsive to meeting your partner’s romantic or sexual needs.
But I have been thinking of it in another way. You have spontaneous or responsive desire where responsive desire has you aroused or stimulated first before desire sets in.
I equate this formula to love or attraction for me as well. I may not have instant attraction to someone but then they provide me with attention and I can develop attraction and love with them. This can happen over a long stretch of time or pretty quickly.
I love attention for this reason. I want my partners to be the first to provide me with sexy stimulation so I can feed off of that energy. This is very closely related to my submissive nature.
Lisa Gray 