I saw this post on Facebook and it made me think about the differences between me and my partner when it comes to dating and building relationships. My partner is very much a person who assumes good intent and will meet people where they are and hope they have a growth mindset.
I have this thing where I run at the first sign of a yellow flag when people show interest in me. It is sometimes about preserving my space and my need for alone time. But sometimes I fall hard for someone and ignore major red flags. I spent 4 years on and off talking to a guy who ghosted me twice and only once shared a picture of himself. I am unsure why I kept giving him every chance but gave someone else no chance at all. I am guessing it is about childhood trauma, low self-worth and not being comfortable unless there is an evident power imbalance.
Lisa Gray 