I like to think I know what you need. I want to think I can provide that for you. I know that I can’t. Needs are interesting things. I sometimes struggle to figure out what they need and what I need with them. The need to please can be so strong that it denies my… Continue reading Need
Tag: Polyamory
Is it a Flag?
I have seen a lot of good writing lately detailing what some red flags and green flags might be for doms and subs. There are plenty on the list to look out for as far as red flags, especially for new subs to watch out for. Even Glamour has weighed in (although there is not… Continue reading Is it a Flag?
Poly is Hard
Poly can sometimes be a struggle for me. It is work and work I have to do on my own. I can occasionally ask for help or support but there is no way for anyone to grab the thoughts out of my brain and reframe them. I have to do that work. Add in a… Continue reading Poly is Hard
Doors
Footfalls echo in the memory / Down the passage which we did not take / Towards the door we never opened / Into the rose-garden. / Time present and time past / Are both perhaps present in time future. T. S. Eliot Watching Dark Matter and this quote came up. The story revolves around a cube… Continue reading Doors
Red Flags, Green, Flags, Yellow Flags, Oh My.
https://www.facebook.com/photo?fbid=384852331138864&set=a.101330689491031 I saw this post on Facebook and it made me think about the differences between me and my partner when it comes to dating and building relationships. My partner is very much a person who assumes good intent and will meet people where they are and hope they have a growth mindset. I have… Continue reading Red Flags, Green, Flags, Yellow Flags, Oh My.
Lisa Gray 