I have a hard time sometimes with distinguishing the line between asking for reassurance and regulating emotions. We sometimes get into that position where we want to blame people for our own feelings. Maybe their actions triggered feelings, but the feelings are ours to manage either by processing or figuring out better boundaries, which are… Continue reading Reassurance and Regulation
You will Figure it Out
It’s going to be ok, dear. You’re a bright girl. You’ll figure it out. (Welcome to Derry) I know I will, but sometimes I just want to wallow in the fact that there is something I now have to figure out on my own. And I am scared, honestly, that I will get too used… Continue reading You will Figure it Out
But the Words Get in the Way
I miss having a kinky partner sometimes. Not enough to just go into frenzy mode and try to get one, but still. On nights like tonight, I could use him to spank the overthinking out of me. I could use him to tell me what I did wrong. I could use him to tell me… Continue reading But the Words Get in the Way
Attention
I am on a roll here with reflecting today. I need to work through some things. I read something last night that was a bit triggering and reminded me of some dark times. I got out of those dark times. I have been away from that headspace for a long time, but I can see… Continue reading Attention
Those Damn Puzzle Pieces
I was thinking about that fit again. The way people fit together. On one hand, I think people get hung up on having to fit perfectly. But at times, it really isn't going to connect, no matter how hard you try to put it together and force your way in. I was having such a… Continue reading Those Damn Puzzle Pieces
Lisa Gray 