Protest Behavior What the heck is that? To be honest, I am not 100% sure. I did not read the whole book. But if you are interested in attachment theory, check out Attached by Levine (Polysecure is another popular title to find.) There are also tons of online quizzes, and your attachment style is based… Continue reading Protest Behavior
Author: Lisa Gray
Former librarian turned wannabe author. Writing on my perspectives as a poly kinkster and submissive.
Need
I like to think I know what you need. I want to think I can provide that for you. I know that I can’t. Needs are interesting things. I sometimes struggle to figure out what they need and what I need with them. The need to please can be so strong that it denies my… Continue reading Need
Is it a Flag?
I have seen a lot of good writing lately detailing what some red flags and green flags might be for doms and subs. There are plenty on the list to look out for as far as red flags, especially for new subs to watch out for. Even Glamour has weighed in (although there is not… Continue reading Is it a Flag?
Poly is Hard
Poly can sometimes be a struggle for me. It is work and work I have to do on my own. I can occasionally ask for help or support but there is no way for anyone to grab the thoughts out of my brain and reframe them. I have to do that work. Add in a… Continue reading Poly is Hard
I wish you could see what I feel
I was saying this to someone thinking about how hard it is in long-distance relationships when someone is affecting you physically but can't see or feel that effect they have on you. But playing around with that line, I also started thinking about all the ways someone makes me feel emotionally and how they do… Continue reading I wish you could see what I feel
Lisa Gray 