Rituals

I had a question come in today about rituals. Rituals are a big part of D/s but this was more about what rituals in your life do you have that you would feel weird if you missed it.

Coffee and protein are the one thing I think of right away.

But this past year, I also want those good morning texts and even good night texts. Years ago, when my husband first started dating others and coming up with his own rituals for his other partners, he wanted those good morning and good night texts. I was barely getting messages once a week if it wasn’t me initiating communication. I had some friends who may only message me once every other day or so. I couldn’t imagine something like that.

Now I feel wrong when he takes his presence away. I want to message him, and I want to hear from him. I feel very off and worried when those messages do not come. I am not sure how to feel about that. I come from avoidant stock, and with my kids, I do my best not to be and fail miserably.

Part of this is the power of D/s and Daddy/little dynamics. It is so addictive for me.

And when you are in an online or long-distance dynamic, you can’t take a bath and prepare for a scene. You can’t walk into a room and get in the right headspace. If you don’t have a collar, you can’t take the time to have it placed properly.

There are lots of things that can be rituals, like drinking coffee together, that have to exist in a different way.