Grace and Appreciation

This was the subject of an email from a female submission newsletter I get.

I was thinking about that word grace especially. So many times, I see the end of dynamics play out on social media and in my community. It hurts sometimes to see a great connection end, and both parties struggle with how to separate gracefully.

I think we all have this need to be right. We want to be seen as morally and ethically the victor or the victim. Most of the time, there is no right or wrong, just incompatibility or time to move on.

I find that a lot in my dynamics, where I feel I have gotten everything out of the dynamic I can, and there is nothing else left in the connection, so you cannot evolve the relationship. This is especially hard in long-distance or online dynamics.

My first one was not so far away, and yet, there was a definite setup of being used as a toy or kink dispenser, so not even the promise of sex could make them want to meet me, even when it was fairly cheap for me to do so.

But I still appreciate him so much, even though there were obvious signs of untrustworthiness. I got a lot out of the experience. I have gotten a lot out of all my experiences and partners, and I can’t even communicate how grateful I am for each and every one, no matter how they have ended.