Being able to manage people and projects at work. Talking and flirting with people online. Being able to tell someone plainly that you are not interested. Blocking people without any qualms. Mentoring and teaching students. Writing journal articles and tutorials, hosting workshops.
Then, becoming a blubbering mess with that one special someone. Being little and vulnerable. Holding on to that Daddy/baby headspace in your chats and struggling to talk to them like a human being, being wordy as you try to process things. Opening up about who you are while they are not even in the conversation.
Watching Martin Freeman in a shower scene with a redhead as he talks about quitting his job and traveling with her.
Lisa Gray 