I was thinking today about someone special and wondering how they were doing. Sometimes we get wrapped up in our own heads and in our own needs, and we forget that there is another person out there who has their own needs.
Maybe they have their own demons they are sorting through. Maybe they have others that need them more. One of the things that came out of my experience with polyamory was the idea of agency. I have written about it a time or two. This is something that is important in any type of relationship. I like to think I am good at remembering that partners are individuals with their own lives and thoughts, and dreams that do not have to revolve around me.
But that doesn’t mean I don’t want that to be true in some ways. I have that hope that they are missing me like I am missing them. I do not want them to hurt with it like I am hurting, but I want them to crave that connection. I want them growing impatient with their need.
Lisa Gray 