Reading something today about the predators among us. There is such a fine line between BDSM and abuse especially if you do not really understand it. There are so many that see things between consenting individuals that looks hot and sexy, but they do not see all that goes into it. All the negotiations and risk mitigation, getting to know each other and their bodies and minds and what each can take.
The problem is it is not just physical abuse, but mental abuse and that is so much harder to heal from.
I have to admit that I like to play in that type of danger. That was part of what the writing I read was about. There are masochists and submissives that seek out those that can act like a predator without being a predator.
They want to play on that edge. Hoping the red flags aren’t leading to a real predator just one that can role-play it.·
Real predators know you. They know your type. They are collecting data. Reading you and other subs’ posts so they know what you are looking for and can throw out a few green flags to keep from showing the true predator inside. Keeping you just off kilter so you can’t see who they really are. ·
Lisa Gray 