You say that you will ruin me and I really hope you do. I sit and wait for you to use me. Hoping for your pleasure. Knowing it will be for mine.
I want you to tell me what to do to make me moan the way I always do for you.
Feeling used can sometimes lead to feeling sated, feeling seen.
There are times when feeling used can be a bad thing and there are times when it is exactly what I need.
There are some people whose interests and desires align well with yours and when they say they want to use you, you feel it in the most pleasurable of ways. There is a give and take where you know that allowing your mind and body to be used will lead to getting what you want, too. You just know that the person has your wants, needs, and desires in mind, too.
There are other times when you are with someone and you just know and feel their needs and desires will always come first. For some, it is not just they come first or are the priority, it is all they think about. You are put on this earth to serve them and that should be your only pleasure. Your wants and needs do not matter.
At times, I can be perfectly happy in that situation if the connection is right and I see a reward or an end. If I feel seen in the relationship, I can live with being on the low end of priorities. It is not that I do not have wants and needs in that relationship, It is that I have learned to handle those myself and If I need to, I will fight for them.
Lisa Gray 