Daddy

Thinking about that term and no this is not a post about what being a Daddy Dom means. I believe that is something personal for each relationship or dynamic although a good overview can be found on the Kynk 101 site on Honorifics.

I was watching my notifications on a social media site as a few people hit love on several older pictures. I noticed the captions especially and was reminded of who each picture was for. I use the word daddy a lot, but I am not always talking about the same person. That title has been given to a few people over the years. Some have just been daddy types while others have been Daddy with a capital D. For some, I have just thought it in my mind, but for most, it was a request or even a more formal command to use that honorific. 

Starting out in kink, I never thought I would use the term. It made me slightly uncomfortable and I would say I would be one to steer very clear from age play because of my past. It took me a minute to realize the term does not have to have anything to do with ageplay but there have been times I played with it in just that way.  That was my first experience with it in a kink context. 

I learned quickly that this was something I could definitely get into. There is something about that energy from those who truly identify as daddies. Do not be fooled, though. There are people who just like the name and just want you to call them that during sex. That is not what I am talking about. 

To me, it is that caring aspect within a power exchange whether they care for me with a firm hand when I am being bratty, or soft hair petting and cuddles when I am being rewarded for taking care of Daddy’s needs, too. Even better when you can combine it with playing with the more sadistic side of a daddy, those not afraid of a challenge or to try something new and exciting. I am all for that especially when you develop the trust you need with a daddy that wants to get to know you in all the right ways. One that cares about your limits and helps you set boundaries. It is a special bond and a term of endearment with the right person.